Self-love or being positive to our own body is still a major issue in the society.

When we finally understand that each of us has its own feeling or sensations???

Everyone has the right to feel good in its own body, no matter if she or he is closer to the social norm (which is in my eyes a complete illusion) or not.

Some people could think I’m too thin or maybe a little too corpulent, which is totally ok. Because everyone has a different opinion or view. But it’s not ok to judge, just because somebody doesn’t fit the social norm.

Big people, small people, thin and corpulent people, we are all allowed to love ourselves and feeling good in our own body. Self-love and self-acceptance is not bound to our outside, it only takes place inside of us.

On some days I feel good in my body and on other days I just don't, it always depends on my mental condition. But in the past I wouldn’t have felt comfortable with this belly flab as you can see on the pics. Right now I don't feel bad about it. My mindset and my self-acceptance has changed lately and for that I'm really grateful. So let's think about the fact that we all go through similar ups and downs in life and therefore we should not judge others.

I have a good example. Just this weekend I was pretty down. After a long and intense week with some challenges, I was so exhausted and tired, it starts with a little self-doubt. My own ego whispers me that I won't make it, because I'm not good enough, beautiful enough, smart enough, talented enough or not self-confident enough. Besides I always ask myself what the others think about me? I don’t know, but when I’m really tired for some reason, sometimes it happens that I have a lower self-confidence, and negative thoughts, which cause sadness and self doubt. But I try to stop this by treat myself with a self-care day or two.

Sincerely, we all have these voices in us sometimes...don't we? I think these voices are just our own ego, which somehow wants to keep us in our comfort zone, just to protect us or not put us in danger. But it also keep us from growing, from daring to do something new or different so that we could gain more self-confidence. When I’m in this mood it always helps me to be very careful and loving with myself. I always treat myself well and having a self-care day.Trying to enjoy and therefore to silence these stupid voices.

Since I was alone this weekend, I could concentrate fully on my needs and that’s why I took a self-care weekend. I took a nice hot bath, made myself comfortable on the sofa, read, slept, cuddle with my dog and let a nice Netflix series sprinkle over me. I also took a long walk with my dog and enjoyed the fresh air. I prepared a fresh and healthy meal and ate it in calmness and care. But the best thing of all was, that I called my best friend...!!!! I am very grateful for this self-care weekend and especially for the really good conversation with my friend. It helped me to put me back on track.

If your thoughts are too personal to talk about , you can also try writing them down. If your thoughts just won't let go and you think about it too much and you notice that your mood is getting worse and then you feel restless, just write down your thoughts. Because if you look at them from another perspective, you will see how much smaller the supposed problem can look. As you read again, you can ask yourself were these thoughts you just had are really true. Try to see it objectively and leave your emotions outside.

I hope that my tips will help you on your next carousel of thoughts. They helped me a lot.

Have a good start into a new week!!!

Katy

Pics by Daniell Bohnhof